Thoughts after 70

I asked a friend who has crossed 70 & is heading towards 80 what sort of changes he is feeling in himself? He sent me the following:

  1. After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself.
  2. I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.
  3. I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
  4. I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am.
  5. I stopped telling the elderly that they’ve already told that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past.
  6. I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.
  7. I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say “Thank You.”
  8. I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.
  9. I walk away from people who don’t value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.
  10. I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.
  11. I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.
  12. I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships, I will never be alone.
  13. I have learned to live each day as if it’s the last. After all, it might be the last.
  14. I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!

stay optimistic.

Unfortunately, pessimism is self-fulfilling.

Here we take the stance that all evils are due to lack of knowledge. Rational optimism is the way out. The data supports it, and history supports it.

Through creativity, we can always come up with good explanations to improve our lives and everybody else’s lives.

So stay optimistic.


Quotes

Movie quotes

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“Because he’s the hero Gotham deserves, but not the one it needs right now. So we’ll hunt him. Because he can take it. Because he’s not our hero. He’s a silent guardian, a watchful protector. A dark knight.”

― Jonathan Nolan, The Dark Knight


Quotes

Meditate

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Third step is the biggie. Every time you try to do this, your mind is going to go crazy. You are going to start thinking about all sorts of stupid things like if you need a haircut, why you said that dumb thing to your boss, what’s for lunch, etc.

Every time you notice that your mind is wandering, bring your attention back to your breath and begin again. This is going to happen over and over and over again and that is meditation.


Read to lead, To digest your books above your levels.

It’s not enough that you read a lot. To do great things, you have to read to lead.

Reading to lead means pushing yourself–reading books “above your level.” In short, you know the books where the words blur together and you can’t understand what’s happening? Those are the books a leader needs to read. Reading to lead or learn requires that you treat your brain like the muscle that it is–lifting the subjects with the most tension and weight.

it worked wonders for me: at 19, I was a Hollywood executive, I was at 21 I was the director of marketing for a publicly traded company, and at 24 I’d worked on 5 bestselling books and sold my own to the biggest publisher in the world. I may have been a college drop out but I have had the best teachers in the world: tough books.

Before the first page…

Break out of the School Mindset.

You are not reading for classroom test, Remember: now you’re reading for you.

Place. Names. Dates. These are unimportant. The lessons matter.

Forget everything but that message and how to apply it to your life.

Ruin  the ending

When I start a book, I almost always go straight to Wikipedia (or Amazon or a friend) and ruin the ending. Who cares? Your aim as a reader is to understand WHY something happened, the what is secondary.You ought to ruin the ending–or find out the basic assertions of the book–because it frees you up to focus on your two most important tasks: 

1) What does it mean? 2) Do you agree with it?

The first 50 pages of the book shouldn’t be a discovery process for you; you shouldn’t be wasting your time figuring out what the author is trying to say with the book. Instead, your energy needs to be spent on figuring out if he’s right and how you can benefit from it. Plus if you already know what happens, you can identify all the foreshadowing and the clues the first read through.

Read the reviews

What others think about the book is important, From Amazon to the New York Times, read the reviews so you can deduce the cultural significance of the work–and from what it meant to others.

If you are agreeing an opinion go and steal it. Use it.

The book itself…

Read the Intro/ Prologue/ Notes/ Forward

Read the intro, read all the stuff that comes before the book–even read the editors notes at the bottom of the pages. This sets the stage and helps boost your knowledge going into the book.

Look it up

if you find something that is not understand, don’t pretend you understood it. Go and look the meaning of the word/ concepts. don’t get bogged down with the names of the cities or the spelling of names, you’re looking to grasp the meta-lesson: the conclusions.

Mark Passages

Simply hold the page if you find anything good or mark it. As of my case i copying the same to word doc earlier, now a days i want to use a software to bookmark. If something worthy to note, write in the common place book. This way you can save the contemporaneous inspiration.

After you read

Go back through

Go back through the notes, summary you prepared. After 1-2 weeks read thee notes again and connect with your life. Apply in your problems and minds.

Read One Book from Every Bibliography

In every book I read, I try to find my next one in its footnotes or bibliography. This is how you build a knowledge base in a subject–it’s how you trace a subject back to its core.

Apply and Use

This is most important part as of me (Bino).

Drop them in conversation. Allude to them in papers, in emails, in letters and in your daily life. How else do you expect to absorb them? The more fulfilling an outlet you find for the fruit of your database, the more motivated you will be to fill it. Try adding a line to a report you’re doing, find solace in them during difficult times or add them to Wikipedia pages. Do something.


Quotes

“At your highest moment…be careful. That’s when the Devil comes for you!” - Denzel Washington

Everyone should have a Personal Board of Advisors. - Sahil Bloom

You Can’t Use Up Creativity, the More You Use the More You Have - Maya Angelou

I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious. - Albert Einstein.


Productize Yourself

Naval is summarizing the ‘Getting Rich’ into two words ‘Productize Yourself’.

Productize has specific knowledge and leverage. Yourself has uniqueness and accountability. Yourself also has specific knowledge. So you can combine all of these pieces into these two words.

If you’re looking towards the long-term, you should ask yourself, “Is this authentic to me? Is it myself that I’m projecting?” And then, “Am I productizing it? Am I scaling it? Am I scaling with labor or capital or code or media?” It’s a very handy, simple mnemonic.

Find hobbies that make you rich, fit and creative

Making money should be a function of your identity and what you like to do. Another tweet I really liked was, “Find three hobbies: One that makes you money, one that keeps you fit, and one that makes you creative.”

One that makes you money, one that makes you fit, and one that makes you smarter.


Life Dinner

Schedule a monthly meeting with your partner:

  1. Personal Reflection on Last Month
  2. Relationship Reflection on Last Month
  3. Personal Goals for Next Month

It’s a relationship system for trust, intimacy, and accountability.


Keep going

If the version of you from 5 years ago could see you right now, they’d be so proud.

Keep going.